Trigger Warning: Ableism, Strong Language
Here is a story with a misleading headline. The headline reads "Autism diagnosis shatters Welsh family who go through 'dark times' dealing with aspergers". Read the story. Read the ableist words of the mother. Read the excuses of the abandoning father.
The headline is misleading. Autism did not shatter this family. Privilege shattered this family. The lack of courage to deal with life shattered this family.
The girl, Holly struggled socially, had repetitive behaviors, and sensory issues. A therapist called her a "manipulative drama queen". The mother believed her daughter was just plain "naughty". She was bullied and abused at school. The family stayed together, perhaps on the belief that the child will get over herself and become their darling Princess Perfect that they feel entitled to.
At age 9, Holly is diagnosed with Aspergers. The father can't "cope with the diagnosis" so he leaves. And that is autism's fault? That is illogical misconceived bullshit.
An autism diagnosis should have been a relief and a positive for their family. Lucifer did not creep out of the bowels of Hell to give curse Holly and family with autism at age 9. Holly has been autistic every second of her life. Holly has experienced the strengths and drawbacks of autism every second of her life, and now her parents have been given valuable knowledge with which they can help their daughter cope with her unique challenges. Holly is the same girl with the same skill sets one second before and one second after diagnosis. Nothing was lost, and knowledge was gained.
Instead daddy goes on a bender, and we blame autism. Daddy took a hike because his once potentially perfect little girl no longer lives up to his ill conceived illusions. His privilege has been violated. He now realizes he has a disabled child and he doesn't feel he deserves that challenge.
He is not a victim of autism. He is a coward. He ran away.
The mother says she would have rather have had a "naughty" child than discovered that Holly have autism. Are you fucking serious? You would rather have a child that as a previous therapist put it, manipulates others for attention than have a child that misreads social cues due to a having a brain that is wired differently?
She is not a victim of autism. She is an asshole. She is the new Alison Singer.
Holly is not a victim of autism, she is a victim of her parents failures. And also of a society that blames her and autism as an excuse for her parents shortcomings. Everyone is perfect in this whitewashed illusion we live in, unless you are different. Then you are a living, breathing excuse for everyone elses problems.
Nobody is perfect. You don't always get what you think you deserve for all of the good you think you do. You can love and support those around you to make the best of it. Or you can be a whiny privileged coward, or a hate mongering ableist.
The headline is wrong. The story is not about autism. It should be "Privileged Welsh family shattered by real life". Get it straight.